Well I chose to take the reins in this situation that I'm in. We talked to our adoption lawyer and she said that all the stuff that was going on was harrassment. I thought to myself actually it felt like a living hell, and so I feel better now that someone who is in the legal profession thought this stuff was not right either. So we changed our phone number to unlisted, and our lawyer said she would mail a letter to the "biological donor" if anything else was done. I just hated that it came to this point. You feel like a bad guy for complaining about things, but you also want your life to go on. Without having to look over your shoulder all the time. Thinking you're going to run into them. well that's about it.

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Well I've also learned that with adoption, It is never really over. My Son is 4 yrs old, and the biological mom just won't let us live our lives. Just when you're in that calm space in your life and you can handle anything, there the phone rings....even when Our adoption was closed, this mom still wants to call us at the worst possible times. I think to purposely get my life in a upheaval. It's a control thing. She wants to talk to my 4 yr old and tear him up I guess like she does me. He doesn't know her and to hear some woman crying hyst on the phone is not going to happen. anybody out there got any suggestions? Thanks, Lanie

So tomorrow it's off to another baby shower, where you have to sit and pretend to be so excited for someone who having their 2nd, 3rd, or 4th baby. If you go you pretend to be happy, and don't get me wrong, I do much better as the years go by, but it's still hard. I thank god every day that we adopted our son, or else I don't think I would ever be able to attend any of those things. I would just be a bitter, BARREN, hateful witch, that no one would want to be around. So my life goes on. And to more & more baby showers I go. Maybe after the 100 th one it won't be so bad. So to all of us who have to sit to the side while everyone around us is pregnant, I send a prayer out today. I hope everyone has a beautiful day!!